Do you practice appreciation? Is this something you feel needs to be “practiced”? Let’s dive a little deeper as this is something that has been on my mind lately.
I believe there are a couple of different ways to look at appreciation. The micro and the macro.
I feel most people have the ability and are fairly good with appreciation on a macro level. It’s easy to look at things through a broad lense and be appreciative. I do it all the time. I can honestly say that I truly appreciate the blessed life that I live.
I’m raising three amazing little boys with a partner that I truly, deeply love. I have friends and extended family that care for me and that I care for. I own a small business that allows me to not only financially support my family, but also allows me the freedom to pursue my personal goals and passions. I can say that I have a lot in my life to be appreciative of. However, I also feel that appreciation of the macro in your life doesn’t need to be practiced as often. It is important to stop and think of those things and remind yourself of those things in your life to be appreciative of, but its the micro-moments from day to day.
I have found myself working to look at the more challenging micro-moments in my life through a more appreciative lense.
I have a newborn baby. As those of you who have ever been through this stage know, it can be challenging. Late night feedings, sleepless nights, never-ending diaper changes and what can sometimes seem like endless fits of crying for no particular reason. In these moments, instead of having an internal self-dialogue of; “I have to fill in the blank (feed the baby, change a diaper etc..)”, I have tried using; “I get to …”.
I have found by changing this one simple word, my entire frame of reference has been changed. I am now living in a moment that I GET to spend doing something that some people may never have the opportunity to do. This works with almost every scenario you can think of. In my mind, it allows me to look at what may normally be considered a negative situation with a positive attitude.
Having an argument with a partner, family member or friend? Tell yourself to be appreciative of the fact that you have someone in your life that cares enough to spend their precious time having that argument with you. Now, you GET to have that discussion.
Is your child misbehaving? Appreciate that you are in a moment to teach and nurture this young human being. Now instead of having to discipline your child, you GET to take the opportunity to teach.
This outlook can be applied in your work, with friendships, and in just about any discouraging situation you find yourself in.
Trust me, I am no expert in this, and have to remind myself of this on a daily basis. Like any new habit, this has to be practiced.
Just remember, in every micro-moment in life, you have the power to make the decision about what lense you are going to look through. I hope you choose the lense of appreciation.
I hope you all have a great week and thank for reading my “Thoughts from the Trail”